SEX AND INFERTILITY: INADEQUACY
Some couples will choose to accept infertility and not have children. For others the need is so strong that they are prepared to do whatever it takes to overcome it, including fertility tests, operations and the prospect of repeated disappointments.
For these would-be parents it is absolutely essential to know exactly what they are in for before they make the decision to go ahead. That means understanding what the tests involve and how the whole process is likely to affect them both. All of the major fertility clinics have access to counselling services to help out with this. One of the issues that needs to be sorted out very early in counselling is whether one or both partners is secretly blaming the other for their inability to conceive. Whatever the cause, a conception of any sort needs to be a team effort. Harboring resentment against your partner for their ‘inadequacy’ will stand in the way of that. The other objective is to make sure that both partners have realistic expectations of success. It is not easy to strike a balance between optimism and caution when so much is at stake.
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